• thoughts on criticism •
‘I don’t care what they think of me, I care what I think of me’ the DA said to Harvey Specter. While Harvey completely ignored this phrase and went on to try on his next move, the phrase kept repeating in my head. I don’t care what they think of me, I care what I think of me.
I never intended to have some kind of awakening while watching my current favorite Netflix series, but I did. It was like one of those moments of reassurance or someone telling the truth to your face and all the pieces of the puzzle seem to fit. It isn’t even that good of a quote, and and a lot of you might even consider it to be basic, but it was all I needed at that moment.
In this day and age it’s easy to get caught up in someone else’s opinion, in the ideas of how you should and shouldn’t be. You can find criticism and disapproval almost anywhere. And even though I wish it wasn’t true, I was losing myself in it.
For the past few weeks I had been overanalyzing every move I made and every word I said. Hoping that I hadn’t said anything that would hurt someone or hadn’t made a bad impression. At the same time the criticism of others seemed to hit me harder than it normally would. If someone at work would comment on something I did, I’d take it personally. I would find errors and shortcomings in things that weren’t even meant in that way and even social media got on my nerves.
I think sometimes it all gets too much and then you start to care about things you shouldn’t give a sh*t about.
‘There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing and be nothing.’
You see, criticism is a good thing and reevaluating where you are and who you are every once in a while is necessary to grow as a person. But there’s a line that should not be crossed.
YOU CAN’T TAKE CRITICISM FROM EVERYONE
Take it from your backbone. The ones you can call when you’re a fuckin’ hot mess. The people who celebrate your highs with you, and are still there when life goes low.
The ones who want to know if you came home safely and the people who shoot you a message just to share the littlest, stupidest things with you.
And if you look at it that way, most people won’t make the cut. Most of your Facebook friends won’t. A lot of people you see every week won’t. And sometimes even your crush won’t.
So do whatever you want to do and let opinions of those who don’t matter fly out the window. There’s no guide to living, there’s no right or wrong, there’s no should and shouldn’t. Grab life by the balls and make sure that you’re content with who you are and where you’re going. Reflect every now and again, but while you’re doing that only take comments from your backbone.
After all, your backbone is what keeps you standing.